Impinged-upon adults have received some confusing communications from their parents. They are given unconsciously because of the parents’ basic psychological need. These parents do not punish or destroy intentionally; more likely, they are passing on unwritten laws that may have been given to them by their parents. To survive psychologically, these mothers need their children to be extensions of themselves and need to be needed by those children. Therefore, they take unconscious steps to sabotage their off-springs’ independence.