We are hostages of family constraints and confined to the actions permitted by our culture. To survive, we have denied our own realities, sometimes before we knew them. For the neurotic, the psychotic, and the character disordered, too much that was precious has been forsworn. The job of the realness therapist is to discover and address the patient’s denied realities to enable the patient to exorcise them. Only then can the patient take full possession of his self, the core of being we all have but so seldom know. (10 pp.)